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Extra Marital Affairs

Thursday, October 21st, 2010

Extra Marital Affairs

Extra Marital Affairs

Marital Affairs can be extremely exhilarating,  exciting, with added  passion and romane. Depending on the circumstances they can also be hurtful for the other party and either helpful or damaging to a relationship. Many people dream about having an affair, the thought of that extra illicit attention. We want to feel desired.

We all do a little bit of window shopping, do we not all wish we could be stranded on a desert island with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie (not together, unless that’s what floats your boat).

What about men, they would often cheat on their partners if they thought they could get away with it. We all need a little bit more than we already have. It’s not always just about the sex though it’s a little bit more. How many of you would be trusting enough to leave your husbands in the playboy mansion overnight ? Would you let them visit Thailand or Amsterdam alone.

But what is an affair? Well, what it’s not a drunken mistake after the office party or a one-night stand either. Neither is it a romance between two people who are both free of other commitments.

An affair is a sexual relationship that lasts beyond one night where at least one of the participants is attached to someone else.  Secret meetings, clandestine visits, hotels etc.

The reality is not all affairs will end up in hurt, pain or anger.  Some affairs may have a happy ending. Many happy second marriages began as illicit affairs – but the vast majority of extra-marital liaisons don’t end in a new marriage or relationship.  So starting an affair is can be a brilliant step to take  and people do it all the time, but be aware of the potential pitfalls.

How can I tell if my partner is having an affair?

The one thing to look for is changes in their behaviour patterns. Everyone having an affair changes in some way or another . A man might bath or shower more often. He may join the gym to get into better shape . He may start taking more of an interest in fashion or get himself a fashionable haircut. He may become more romantic and attentive within the relationship, or indeed he may become quite callous or indifferent towards you, and he will almost certainly start ‘working late’ or having the odd night out with the lads from football or the gym.

On their own do not prove your partner is having an affair, but they can be common indicators.

Women also change if they are having an affair. They lose weight, again they buy more modern clothes and get new hairstyles. They start ‘going for a drink after work’ and have more nights out, supposedly with girlfriends. They may take up an evening class.They will frequently buy their partner little loving gifts because they are feeling guilty, and sometimes they become extra keen on sex and become more randy and hot in bed than they have for years.

Again, these things in themselves don’t mean for certain that they’re being unfaithful, but they certainly show that something different is going on and can alert the spouse to a possible affair.

Finally, do remember that affairs tell us something is wrong with the original married or live-in relationship. So, if you discover that your partner is being unfaithful,  you’ll have a better chance of saving your relationship if you’re prepared to accept that at least some of the reasons for your partner’s infidelity may be attributable to you.

It’s quite common for couples to caught up in affairs which they did not intentionally set outt to. You can innocently be friendly with someon of the opposite sex and before you know it one thing leads to another and everything gets out of hand,  before you know it you are caught up in an affair and don’t know how to get out of it.