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Reasons Why People Have Marital Affairs

Wednesday, October 13th, 2010

Reasons Why People Have Marital Affairs

Some people see marital affairs as something to do when you’re bored, or simply an instrument to ensure certain amount of sexual variety in ones’ life. Fortunately many people don’t see it that way, as a matter of fact, majority of married people see it as a despicable, and unforgivable sinful act. With strong opinions on both sides you’d think that there is no gray-areas, that it’s simply a matter of black and white – but you’d be surprised to know that the question of why marital affair happened in the first place is debatable; and with good merits on both sides.

Marriage is a sacred institution of trust known world over as a union of two people in love who contracted either spiritually or civilly to speak for the other or to be spoken for by the other – figuratively. Whatever form a marriage is based on, be it spiritual or religious, civil or contractual; there is one thing it cannot escape and that is the ever reaching long-arm of marital affairs.

Why Do People Have Marital Affairs?

It has no boundaries, it does not matter how long the marriage has lasted, whether the marriage is strong or weak. It just doesn’t matter who, what and when – it happens to the best of marriages unfortunately, and here are some reasons why:

1. Absence of Intimacy: Lack of intimacy in marriage can be a contributing factor to marital affair. When one partner is not getting his/her sexual needs met it could lead to all sorts of instability in the marriage depending on the root cause of the problem. If lack of sexual attention is due to sickness or temporary physical problems then the offending partner who cheated is not always forgiven –because not only did he/she cheated but lacked sensitivity towards the ailing partner. On the other hand, when affair occurred because one partner is withholding intimacy from the other, it becomes very difficult to assess blames. This type of affair is when the offending partner most of the time feels no guilt, and may even claim to be in the right.

2. Blinded By Looks Or Love: People with compromised willpower will often “fall in lost” with somebody other than their spouse. Affair based on lust is usually the most regrettable ones. Attraction can be dangerous thing, instant gratification can even be worse – and that is why combination of attraction, lack of willpower and instant gratification can lead to marital affair.

3. Lack Of Spousal Attention: When people feel neglected , or unappreciated they may try to do something to get attention, often the result leads to having an affair either to be fulfilled or to get their spouse’s attention.

4. Sexual Conquest: Some people are just born wild, they are adventurous, and being with somebody else other than their spouse is the only thing that can make them feel complete. This type of individuals cheat not because they feel attracted or have feeling for the person with whom they are cheating with – but simply to add to their sexual adventure trophies.

5. Looking To End The Marriage: People often cheat in their marriage just to find a way to end the marriage. A partner who has grown tired of the marriage and wanted out but could not find a way to talk the spouse about divorce could use an affair as a weapon to provoke the other spouse to ask for divorce.

Marital affairs happen more  often than we want to admit, and from both men and women. There is no good or bad marital affair – it is a matter of “whose ox is being gored“; if you’re the cheater you may feel justified for your actions, and for the cheated there is never enough justification. People cheat for many reasons, and whatever your reason may be remember that there is somebody on the receiving end with a broken heart.